A desire to be happy is something that almost everyone has in common. But it is not always easy to create happiness, nor to decide whether you are happy once you feel you should be. Every life will have ups and downs, and so it is helpful if we have a gauge by which to judge whether we have achieved happiness or not.
Chronic illness throws another issue into the mix. Our mental health can have a huge impact on our physical, and visa-versa. So, feeling happy can be even more important. ‘How happy are you?’ is a question we all ponder. These questions below are designed to help you know come to a conclusion. This post contains affiliate links for your convenience. For more information check out my full affiliate disclosure.
Do I Wake Up Excited about the Day?
This is a tell-tale sign about your inner happiness. Do you wake up each morning ready to face the day, or do you feel anxious and fearful? It is difficult to be happy if you are starting off each morning in a negative way. When you wake up in the morning have a think, are you excited? How happy are you about the coming day?
Personally, I have found how I wake up in the morning has a massive affect on my happiness throughout the day. My fatigue tends to be at it’s worst first thing and so it can mean my day is often starting negatively. I read this book and found it to be super helpful in combatting this. Actually, I listened to it on Audible which I highly recommend. Though I am no expert at putting the principles taught into action, I am finding myself far more happier each morning.
Do I Look Forward to My Main Occupation?
Whether you are working (from home, or not), attending school, or doing something else, you should feel a sense of anticipation when you ask yourself how happy are you about being there. There are certain things we must do, like pay the rent, so your decision to work may not be an option. You do, however, have an option as to where you work. If you don’t like it, change it.
Living with a chronic illness can make regular work challenging. This is why I think working from home can be such a great option. You just need to work out whether a work from home job or a home based business is right for you. It’s also key to ensure you keep a positive mindset, whatever your work is.
Do I Enjoy the People I Spend Most of My Time With?
The people you spend the majority of your time with are the people who will have the greatest influence on you. If they are bitter, discouraging and lack motivation, chances are that you eventually will become the same type of person. If your friends are not uplifting, make new ones. Spend your extra time with those who will cause your life to be more joyful, and will help you create positive memories that will bring long-term happiness. So, how happy are you with the people you spend the most of your time with?
Do I Like Who I Am?
A key component to happiness is liking and loving yourself for who you are. If you don’t, then you need to figure out why. Make necessary changes, and then choose to love yourself despite your flaws.
Self-love can be a challenging thing to learn. But, it is so important to do so. There are many things you can do to get yourself onto the path of self-love. Things like reading, listening to podcasts, surrounding yourself with positive influences. My friend Steph is actually pretty awesome at this and has been a huge influence on my self-love. Her goal is to help you love you like Kanye loves Kanye. So basically, she’s big on self-love!
Do I Dread or Look Forward to My Future?
Happiness includes feeling confident and secure about your future. Of course, this isn’t always possible with a chronic illness, but that doesn’t mean that we have to live every day in fear. Grow your confidence in small ways, and consider counselling if you feel more than occasional stress when you think about the future ahead. Personally, I have had to grieve the future I thought I’d have. I think it’s an important process in coming to terms with the new future you get to have with a chronic illness or health condition, or in my case, cancer.
Do I Know My Life Purpose?
Everyone has a life purpose. There is something about you that makes you a unique gift to the world. If you have not discovered this about yourself yet, your self-esteem will suffer, as will your happiness. There are many questionnaires and books dedicated to discovering your life purpose. Consider investing your time to learn more and find what makes you feel most fulfilled in life. I particularly like Danielle Laporte’s method of Desire Mapping. That way, you’re working out how you want to feel, and from that you can work out what you want to do.
Being happy is not a frivolous desire. It is important to know how you are wired and what it takes to be happy with yourself and your life. By asking yourself these questions and then taking a moment to think about your answers, you will be well on your way to a life of true happiness. I’d love to know what you think of these questions, if there’s any you’re thinking could be added. Comment below with your thoughts, or join the discussion in our awesome group of Chronic Entrepreneurs.
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